If Everyone Else Jumped Off a Cliff . . .

Do you fear man too much and God too little? Part 1 of 4

by Barry Pendley

There was a test conducted by a university where 10 students were placed in a room. Three lines of varying length were drawn on a card. The students were told to raise their hands when the instructor pointed to the longest line. But 9 of the students had been instructed beforehand to raise their hands when the instructor pointed to the second longest line. One student was the stooge. The usual reaction of the stooge was to put his hand up, look around, and realizing he was all alone, pull it back down. This happened 75% of the time, with students from grade school through high school. The researchers concluded that many would rather be popular than be right.

We all, to one degree or another, long to be accepted, loved, and esteemed by others. However, this longing often supplants biblical thinking, which in turn, leads to disobedience. Society calls this “peer pressure;” God calls it a “fear of man.”

What is the difference between peer pressure and a fear of man? Peer pressure and the “fear of man” are not synonymous. Peer pressure has a good side. It can be that which causes you to do what is right. For instance, a godly friend may encourage you toward Christlikeness.

As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another (Pr 27:17).

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up (Ecc 4:9–10).

Therefore, peer pressure has a good side. Yet, peer pressure has a dark side. It is a “fear of man” which leads one to ungodly behavior. Throughout this series of articles, we will focus on this side of peer pressure and refer to it as God does – the “fear of man.”

Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is kept safe (Pr 29.25).

Everyone has a “fear of man.” As one writer puts it, “if one denies that he has a ‘fear of man’ you had better check his pulse.” Before you reject this premise, consider the following questions:

• Are you a teen who keeps his room locked and does not want his parents to come in – Do you have a fear of what they will find?
• Have you ever abandoned verbalizing a good thought for fear that others may think you are unintelligent?
• Have you ever failed to stand for truth because you knew the overwhelming (or maybe a simple) majority went against you?
• Do you seek the attention of others?
• Do you ask others for their comments knowing that they will applaud you for something you did?
• Have you ever done something moronic so as to attract the attention of others?
• Do you ever exaggerate about your experiences?
• Have you ever lied, fearing that someone would know the truth?

Would you have been among the 75% of students in the illustration at the beginning of this article?

If you answered “yes” to any of the above, I rest my case. The “fear of man” permeates society to such a degree that it is no secret. Interestingly enough, many psychologists have “discovered” this problem, labeling people who succumb to a “fear of man” as those who have “low self-esteem,” are “co-dependent,” or have “histrionic personality disorder.” Some, labeled “agoraphobics,” are so fearful of people that they will not go to a mall, store, or in some cases, never leave their homes.

As you can see, psychologists have not uncovered a new problem, they merely gave an old problem a new name. Not only has psychology given the “fear of man” a new label, it posits new techniques to rid people of “low self-esteem” and a variety of other mental problems. This article will expose certain myths associated with a “fear of man.”

Myth 1: “Ignore the pressure and it will go away!”

Should you ignore the pressure hoping it will go away? This seems to be the sentiment of the world’s counsel. They say things like:

“If you have a problem, avoid it, pretend it doesn’t exist.

“If it is in your power, do away with those things (people) that bring your pressure.”

According to a Christian psychologist, Clyde Narramore, the way to handle peer pressure is to get rid of the pressure altogether. In his book, How to Handle Pressure, he illustrates his point by describing the “no grade” system.

Shortly after graduating from college, I taught in an elementary school which experimented with a number of innovative ideas. One of these was the issuing of report cards without precise grades.

The principle, herself, was a relaxed, thoughtful person. She wanted each child to do his best without undue pressure from competition. Teaching in this school was a rewarding experience for me. Each month when the report cards were issued, teachers wrote a brief description of the child’s activities and progress. But no grades were assigned. Frankly, I felt a little uncomfortable at first, not giving “A’s” and “C’s” or “1s” or “4s” or something in between. But as time went on I saw many advantages in this procedure. I soon learned, too, that the kids liked it very much. Some of the children who had grown up in that school had never received a “mark” and they didn’t know the difference between an “A” and a “D.” But they were happy, and relaxed, and they did excellent work.

What are the problems with this view? Narramore’s popular concept is more fantasy than reality for at least two reasons

It is impossible to get rid of pressure. We will always have a “fear of man.” The problem is not fearing man, but succumbing to it.

Getting rid of the pressure should not be one’s focus. What should be the Christian focus? A Christian can effectively battle against peer pressure (fear of man) by developing a fear of the Lord.

Myth 2: “You need other people for selfish reasons!”

The world doesn’t like to put it so bluntly, but this is exactly what it teaches. You will find this teaching floating in pop songs like “People Who Need People” and the pop psych literature.

The basic personal need of each personal being is to regard himself as a worthwhile human being . . . . In order to do so, we must not only be significant but also be secure in the unconditional love of another person. Larry Crabb in Basic Principles of Biblical Counseling, pp 53, 63

If the need for love is not met in a person’s life, he may develop attitudes and tendencies . . . that will shape his whole life in a distorted pattern. Clyde Narramore in This Way to Happiness, p 16.

If I could write a prescription for the women of the world, I would provide each one of them with a healthy dose of self-esteem and personal worth . . . . I have no doubt that this is their greatest need. James Dobson in What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Women, p 35.

Psychologists use the “empty love cup” to illustrate this teaching. They believe that man has an internal void that needs to be filled with love, acceptance, affirmation, and recognition. According to the world, man is empty if he does not have these things. You may have heard this philosophy in the following statements:

I need to be affirmed by my friends.

I need acceptance.

If you haven’t noticed these statements, listen for them. They are commonly used on Christian radio, self-help books, and in the conversations of many Christians. What are the problems with this view?

According to psychology, one of your greatest problems is a lack of love. The Bible teaches differently. Man’s greatest problem is sin.

According to psychology, your focus must be to receive love (affirmation) from others. The Bible teaches that your focus must be to show love to God and others, not get love from others.

What is the result of this teaching? This view actually causes and promotes a “fear of man.” According to these teachers, you must focus on receiving love and affirmation from others. If you don’t receive this affirmation, then you are lacking. Your friends, then, become a selfish means to this acceptance. So, if your life focus is to serve yourself, you will be pressured to be accepted by your peers! You will do whatever you can to receive acceptance, affirmation, and love from your peers. If that isn’t a “fear of man” what is?

Myth 3: “Cast aside all guilty feelings!”

This may be the most prominent way the world has replaced a fear of God with the fear of man. Psychologists no longer talk of guilt in a biblical sense. They have taken a biblical word and stripped it of all meaning. Psychology redefines “guilt” in such a way that it is now considered a mere feeling. Today, people talk not of guilt, but of “guilt feelings.” They say things like:

“Don’t feel guilty, you need to feel good about yourself!”

“Don’t feel guilty, ignore those feelings! They don’t exist! They are a product of your imagination!”

“Don’t feel guilty, do what you want to do!”

“Don’t feel guilty, stay busy!”

What are the problems with this view?

Guilt is not a feeling, it is a legal fact. Psychology has confused the fact of guilt with the feelings of shame. Guilt is not a feeling, shame is a feeling. Guilt may or may not be followed by shame. For instance, have you ever run a stop sign without realizing it? You don’t feel shamed because you were not aware of your transgression. Yet, if you were pulled over by a police officer, he would consider you guilty. Consider how ridiculous you would sound explaining your innocence to a police officer:

Sir, you know I can’t be given a ticket for running that stop sign back there. I had no guilt feelings. Also, guilt is so bad, that I have cast aside all guilt feelings.

The Bible records an instance where the spiritual leaders in Jerusalem were so full of greed that they were thieves. Though the priests were guilty of thievery, they had no feelings of shame. Notice how the Bible emphasizes the point:

Are they ashamed of their loathsome conduct? No, they have no shame at all; they do not even know how to blush. So they will fall among the fallen; they will be brought down when I punish them,” says the LORD. (Jer 6.15 repeated in 8.12)

Were these people guilty of sin? Yes. Did they feel the impact of their guilt? No. They were not at all ashamed; they didn’t even know how to blush.

Guilt is only cast away by obedient living. One cannot play mind games by “casting aside feelings.” The only way one can gain a “guilt-free conscience” is by living obediently. Since one becomes guilty by sinful living, one also maintains innocency by living obediently. Notice how David dealt with his guilt before God:

Have mercy on me, O God, according to your unfailing love; according to your great compassion blot out my transgressions. Wash away all my iniquity and cleanse me from my sin. (Ps 51.1–2)

Conclusion The “fear of man” is ripping apart the moral fabric of our society. It is found among all people, children through adults. It rears its ugly head in many different ways. Psychologists proffer their counsel, but they have had more success in identifying it than eradicating it. Therefore, one must give full attention to the Scriptures and consider how to do battle with the “fear of man.”

Think what would have happened during the Revolutionary war if the soldiers fell prey to a “fear of man.” Imagine if Wycliffe and the translators of Scripture succumbed to a “fear of man;” we would not have God’s Word in the English language. Consider what example you would leave your children if you allowed a “fear of man” to dominate your life. Imagine standing before God, your sovereign Creator, and saying to Him, “I feared man more than you.”

Consider the words of John Flavel, a nonconformist who lived in the 1600s:

The unsaved man fears man and not God; the strong Christian fears God and not man; the weak Christian fears man too much and God too little.

This four-part series was developed shortly after the author read the book, When People are Big and God is Small.

Bible Boot Camp: Lesson 15: How to Get the Most from a Sermon

Mortimer Adler wrote an influential book called “How to Read a Book.” Odd title—how could one read that book if he didn’t know how to read a book? Adler’s book focuses on what questions to ask and what to look for as you read, how to analyze the author’s arguments, how to mark up the book for later use. Millions have found Adler’s book very helpful.

Just like people don’t know how to read a book, they don’t know how to listen to a sermon. Millions every week find the messages they hear dull, boring and irrelevant simply because they have not learned how to enjoy and profit from a message.

What can you do to make a sermon more personally meaningful?¹

1. Prior to the sermon: prepare yourself.

Most people think that a sermon begins when the speaker opens his mouth to start preaching. But getting the most out of a sermon starts prior to the message.

1. During the week: The more we personally worship the Lord during the week (in Bible study, prayer, song, righteous living, etc.), the more prepared we will be to corporately worship him come Sunday. If church services are the only time you spend in worship, you’ll likely not get much from the message.

Pray for the speaker throughout the week, asking for God to help him prepare and preach the appropriate messages. When we pray thus, it creates within us an expectancy and anticipation that God may use the message to directly minister to us. Congregations often get what they pray for in this regard.

2. Saturday night: Don’t stay out so late on Saturday night that you can’t function on Sunday morning. Get to bed early enough to get a good night’s sleep. Have Sunday morning planned out beforehand (clothing, breakfast, travel plans, etc.). Begin thinking about and planning for the Lord’s Day the night before.

Here’s an Idea: Plan a special “Lord’s Day Eve” meal and family time on Saturday night to prepare for Sunday. Include Scripture reading and prayer after the meal with a focus on teaching the children different aspects of church life. Take time to get everything ready to go for Sunday morning. Create anticipation and excitement within your family for the Lord’s Day.

1. Sunday morning:

   1. Spend time in personal worship at home (Bible reading and prayer) before leaving for church. Ask God to prepare your own heart for worship and to bless the worship service, especially the preaching.

   2. It may be wise to eat only a light breakfast to prevent lethargy.

   3. Allow plenty of time to get ready and get to church early. Plan to arrive at least 10 minutes prior to the beginning of the service.

   4. At church, prior to the service:

• Greet others warmly. Look for visitors or new people to meet and greet.

• Look over the bulletin. Read through the Scripture text and/or outline if given.

• Think about the purpose of the service–to bring honor and glory to God, to worship, to receive encouragement, to be challenged and to be taught.

• Think about God’s perfect character and attributes – wisdom, power, glory, grace, mercy, etc.

• Spend time in silent contemplation. Prepare your heart for the service to follow.

• Try to anticipate and eliminate distractions both with yourself and with your family members. Prepare yourself to pay attention.

• Humble yourself before the Lord by confessing sin. Thank God for his mercy toward you and his invitation for you to come boldly before the throne of grace. Ask God to help the speaker communicate clearly and to help you understand and apply the message.

• Think about how God might use you to encourage or challenge someone else.

Remember that the speaker has put a lot of time and effort into his message with the express purpose of helping and exhorting the audience. Show that you appreciate and value his efforts by remaining alert and showing that you are interested.

2. During the sermon:

   1. Try to listen carefully. Good preaching appeals first to the mind, so your mind must be fully engaged. Being attentive requires self-discipline. Our minds tend to wander and daydream. But listening to the message is a part of the worship we offer to God. It’s a prime opportunity for us to hear what God is teaching us. Don’t insult the speaker (or God) by daydreaming, tuning out, horsing around or snoozing during the message.

   2. Maintain eye contact with the speaker. This gives you something to focus on and gives the speaker the impression that you are listening.

   3. Turn to the appropriate passages in the Bible and read along silently. It’s beneficial to see the biblical text the message is coming from so you can evaluate what the speaker is saying (C.f., Acts 17:11). The rustling of pages is one extra sound most pastors enjoy hearing during their messages.

   4. Respond positively with nonverbal cues – smile, laugh, nod your head, say “Amen.”

   5. Take notes or follow the outline if one is provided. Write your own outline and see how it compares to the published one. Taking notes is an excellent way to stay focussed during the message.

   6. Think about how to respond personally to the message (c.f., James 1:22). Good preaching always applies the Bible to daily life.

• What sins must I confess and forsake?

• What duties must I fulfill? What commands must I obey?

• What comforts and promises can I count on?

• How does this message encourage or challenge me?

• How must I change my attitudes and/or behaviors?

From the Westminster Confession:

It is required of these that hear the Word preached that they attend upon it with diligence, preparation and prayer; examine what they hear by the Scriptures; receive the truth with faith, love, meekness and readiness of mind; meditate upon it; hide it in their hearts; and bring forth the fruit of it in their lives.

3. Review after the service.

• Talk to the speaker about your impression of the sermon, either good or bad.

• Quiz family members or friends about the main points of the sermon.

• Discuss the purpose of the sermon and how one should respond to it.

• Discuss anything about the sermon that was confusing or hard to understand.

• Discuss the other parts of the service–music, prayer, etc.

• Avoid being overly critical of the “performance” of the preacher. Focus instead on the content of the message.

Note the quote: “Something important happens when we hear a good sermon: God speaks to us. Through the inward ministry of the Holy Spirit, He uses His Word to calm our fears, comfort our sorrows, disturb our consciences, expose our sins, proclaim His grace, and reassure us in the faith. But these are all affairs of the heart, not just matters of the mind, so listening to a sermon can never be a merely intellectual exercise. We need to receive Biblical truth in our hearts, allowing what God says to influence what we love, what we desire and what we praise.”²

Listening to a sermon requires a prepared soul, an alert mind, and open Bible and a receptive heart. But the best way to tell whether we are listening is by the way we live.

1 Some of this material from “Prepare and Participate: Practical Suggestions on Your Role in Worship at North City Presbyterian Church” in Power Preaching for Church Growth by David Eby (Mentor Press,1996)

2 Philip G. Ryken, “Tuning In” TableTalk (Ligonier Ministries), Mar 2003, pp. 14-16.

Bible Boot Camp: Lesson 14: Christian Growth

When a person gets saved, he begins a new life. According to 2 Corinthians 5:17, old things have passed away and all things have become new. At this stage, the new believer is much like an infant; in fact, Bible refers to a new believer as a baby. Like physical babies, new believers need to grow, develop, and become strong and mature. This lesson will explore the process of Christian growth.

1. Read 2 Peter 3:18. Is growth a biblical idea? yes

What are two areas Christians are to grow in? grace and knowledge

By “grace” Peter is speaking of the Christian life in general. “Grow as a Christian” is the idea. Many aspects of the Christian life are capable of growth—faith may grow exceedingly, hope abound, love increase, and patience have its perfect work, and saints may grow more humble, holy, and self-denying.

Paul said (Phil 3.10) “That I may know him, and the power of his resurrection, and the fellowship of his sufferings.” He’s talking about an increased understanding of and walk with Christ. That should be our goal as well.

How can one grow in his/her knowledge of Christ? Read the Bible, read theology, talk to mature believers, formal study–Christian college, seminary. There’s also a more subjective/personal knowledge that one acquires as he experiences the Christian life.

2. Read 2 Peter 1:5-8. What does this passage suggest about Christian growth? We are continually adding, building, getting more mature. There is no plateau, no end of the growth process.

3. Read Ephesians 4:11-13. What goals does the author write about here? Being prepared for works of service, reaching the unity of faith and knowledge, becoming mature, attaining the whole measure of the fullness of Christ.

4. Read 2 Timothy 3:16-17. How can one become “thoroughly equipped for every good work”? thru the Word

5. Read Hebrews 10:23-25. What is one of the benefits of church attendance? Others provoke us to love and good works.

6. Read Ephesians 4:22-24. This passage gives us a good outline of how Christian growth takes place. Notice the three steps involved:

• Put off the old man. The “old man” is the previous, unsaved lifestyle. Paul is telling us to put away the former sinful way of life. The first step toward Christian growth is quitting the sinful habits and behaviors that you indulged in prior to salvation. This may require that you stop going to the places and/or being with the people associated with former sinful behavior patterns. A clean break with the old unsaved life is required.

• Be renewed in the spirit of your mind. We renew our minds through exposure to the Word of God. As we read, listen to, think about, and memorize Scripture, we come to a new way of thinking, which influences our way of living. Faithful attendance at church and participation in Bible studies can greatly help the renewal process.

• Put on the new man. The new man is the lifestyle appropriate for Christians, the new way of life that accompanies new spiritual life. We must adopt those behavior patterns that the Bible commands us to pursue.

Remember that the believer has two natures, that is, two sets of characteristics: the old and the new. The old nature is that set of characteristics that is hostile to godliness and influences one toward sin. One receives a new nature, a new set of characteristics, at the point of salvation. This nature longs for the things of God–holiness, righteousness, purity, etc. The old, sinful nature still exists, but it need no longer control the believer. Believers are free from the power of sin to control their lives.

That doesn’t mean that we no longer struggle with sin. The Christian must continually strive to undercut, uproot and disable the old nature so that it has less influence, while feeding the new nature so that it has more control. Sin still dwells within the believer. He is a new creation, but not a perfect creation. He is no longer a slave to sin. With God’s help, he can overcome sin and live a righteous, although not perfect, life.

7. Read Luke 22:40. Prayer is another key element of Christian growth. Prayer shows that we are relying upon God’s strength for the ability to make progress in the Christian life. Ask for God’s help in turning from sin and toward holiness.

8. Read Philippians 2:12-13. The power for growth in holiness rests entirely with God. Nevertheless, the writers of the NT constantly exhort believers to work and strive toward spiritual growth. We are responsible to put to death the deeds of the flesh and to present our bodies a living sacrifice. So while sanctification is clearly God’s work, the believer must expend effort and discipline himself if he wants to grow.

What disciplines will help the believer grow? Bible reading and prayer (daily devotions), church participation, giving

Conclusion: Christian growth is a gradual process whereby believers become more and more Christlike. As a person obeys the Bible and submits himself to its principles, he will become a stronger and more mature Christian. Keys to growth include Bible intake, church participation, a clean break with past sinful patterns of life and a commitment to adopting biblical behaviors.

Discussion:

1. What does Peter mean by “grow in grace”? Grow in Christian graces such as kindness, humility, mercy, love, etc. General growth.

2. Why is church attendance so important for growth? It’s where you hear the Word taught and preached, where others encourage and even rebuke you, and where you fellowship with other believers.

3. What is the “old man”? The sinful, pre-conversion lifestyle.

4. How does one renew his mind? Thru exposure to the Bible

5. Is growth primarily God’s work or man’s? God motivates it and man works toward it.

Bible Boot Camp: Lesson 13: Stewardship

A steward is a manager or administrator. He takes care of other people’s property, and is rewarded or punished for how well he does his job. Jesus used the idea of stewards in his parables (e.g., Luke 12:42, 16:3). Believers are stewards in that God has entrusted to them various resources, and He expects them to use them properly. To do so requires discipline. It’s easy to squander what God has given, or to think that the things God gives are really one’s own. But believers don’t own anything. They are just taking care of God’s property.

Matthew 25:21 His lord said to him, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant; you were faithful over a few things, I will make you ruler over many things. Enter into the joy of your lord.’

Luke 16:10 He who is faithful in what is least is faithful also in much; and he who is unjust in what is least is unjust also in much.

1 Corinthians 4:2 Moreover it is required in stewards that one be found faithful.

Colossians 4:17 And say to Archippus, “Take heed to the ministry which you have received in the Lord, that you may fulfill it.”

Note some important areas of stewardship:

1. Time

Ephesians 5:15-16 Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men but as wise, redeeming the time because the days are evil.

Time is not our own to be used as we see fit, but is a gift or resource from God that believers are to use in ways that would please and honor God. Paul tells us to “redeem the time,” that is, make the most of every opportunity. We don’t know how much time we have; therefore, we should use our time to accomplish the most for God as possible.

How one uses time is a telling commentary on his or her level of discipline. One who can fritter away hours doing nothing of value or merit shows a low level of discipline. While believers should carve out time for rest and relaxation, too much time spent on unprofitable activities can be destructive. There’s some truth in the old saying, “Idle hands are the Devil’s workshop.” Time on earth must be spent doing God’s business and preparing for eternity. Time is short and is passing away. Believers will give an account to God regarding how they spent their time. Discipline yourself to “redeem the time.”

2. Money

There is no excuse for financial irresponsibility. You may not have much money, and you may wish you had more, but whatever amount you have comes from God, and you must handle it as a careful steward.

Biblical principles regarding money and its use:

1. God owns everything. He entrusts His resources to stewards (Ps 24:1).

2. Don’t love money or be materialistic. Greed gets one into trouble (Luke 12:15; 1 Tim 6.8-10).

3. Being rich should not be a primary goal of life (Prov 23:4).

4. Labor to meet the needs of your family (1 Tim 5:8).

5. Give generously and cheerfully to support the work of the ministry (2 Cor 9.6-8). Generous giving results in generous blessing (Luke 6:38). Giving is an act of worship (Phil 4:18). Giving reflects your level of faith (Mark 12:41f). Giving should be planned and systematic (1 Cor 16:1-2).

6. Save money now for later (Prov 6:6-8).

3. Body

Think of your body as a tool that God has given you to serve Him. Just like any tool, it can be used for good or for evil, in appropriate or inappropriate ways. It takes discipline to use your body for the glory of God and not for your own purposes.

Remember Paul’s words: “Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit . . . and you are not your own. Therefore, glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s” (1 Cor 6.19-20). He further tells us to “present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God” (Rom 12:1).

We may be tempted to think that if we own anything, we surely own our own bodies. But such is not the case. God owns our bodies, and He tells us very clearly what He wants us to do with them. It takes discipline to follow God’s commands regarding how we use our bodies.

Believers must discipline (“keep under” 1 Cor 9:27) their bodies. One should take care of his body. Eat the right kinds of foods, avoid destructive foods and activities, and exercise. Keep your body healthy and fit. Doing so prevents sin and allows one to be an effective tool in God’s service.

Note: Part of your body is your mind, your brain. Believers must discipline themselves to use their brains in a way that would honor God. Christianity is an intellectual, mind-intensive way of life. Christians must not be undisciplined and unguarded in their thinking. They are to renew their mind through exposure to God’s Word (Rom 12:2). Don’t be a lazy-minded person.

Philippians 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.

4. Gifts/talents

God has given every believer at least one spiritual gift (1 Cor 12:7). He is responsible to use whatever gifts and talents he has for the good of others. The church is the context for the use of one’s spiritual gifts. One should use his talents and abilities to enhance the ministry of his church. Believers are accountable for how well they managed and employed their gifts. For one to be gifted, and then not to use that gift in God’s service, is a great shame.

1 Pet 4:10 As each one has received a gift, minister it to one another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.

5. Truth

Believers are managers of a message–the gospel and the other contents of the Bible. Individual believers, churches, denominations and other organizations are responsible to both protect and project that message.

• Protect: defend the truth against the onslaughts of anyone who would tear it down (apologetics). Believers must stand for correct doctrine and expose false teaching.

• Project: send the message to those who have not heard (evangelism)

Note: There is a sense in which the Bible is independent from man, and a sense in which it is under man’s stewardship. Because it’s God’s Word, which cannot be bound, destroyed or annulled, one could say that man has no power to uphold or destroy the Bible. On the other hand, because man is responsible to translate, preach and send forth the message of Scripture, there is a sense in which the Bible is under the care of believers.

Another Note: Believers will give an account of their stewardship at the Judgment Seat of Christ (1 Cor 3:11f). This judgment will be based on how well you managed the resources God entrusted to you. Those who served God faithfully and fruitfully will be well-rewarded, while those who did not will see their works go up in smoke.

Conclusion: Every Christian is a steward or manager of the things God has given him. One’s time, money, body, and talents should all be employed in God’s service. Even the Bible and its message are under the stewardship of believers in a sense. Strive to be a good steward of everything God has given you.

For Further Discussion:

1. What is a steward? Manager, superintendent, supervisor, administrator

2. How can one say that all things come from God? Don’t people work for their money and things? God is sovereignly permitting you to work for money. God gives us abilities and talents that we use to make money. He works it out so that you have a job or some other source of income. So everything goes back to God.

3. When will believers give an account of their stewardship? At the Judgment Seat of Christ (1 Cor 3:11f)

4. What resources are believers stewards of? Money, time, body, talents, truth

Bible Boot Camp: Lesson 12: Evangelism

One important responsibility that all Christians have is to tell others how to become Christians. This lesson will examine why and how to tell others about Christ.

1. Read Mark 5:18-20. What did Jesus tell the man to do? To go and tell others what had happened to him.

2. Read Acts 4:20. Why did the disciples tell others about Jesus? It was natural–they couldn’t help it. Should be similar for us.

3. Read Matt 28:19-20. Summarize Jesus’ command here. Go, make disciples, teach them to obey Jesus’ words.

4. Read Matt 5:16. How important is your lifestyle? Does it say anything about you? Lifestyle is very important. Others see it and make conclusions based on it. Your behavior says lots about the kind of person you are.

5. Read 1 John 1:3. What should we tell people? What we have seen and heard.

We ought to tell others what has happened to us. Describe how your life has changed since you became a Christian.

Before I got saved:

Since I’ve been saved:

What are the necessary elements of a Gospel presentation?

• Who God is: the sovereign, holy creator, who made man for fellowship with himself

• Who man is: the sinful, rebellious creature, who is under the wrath and condemnation of God

• Who Jesus Christ is and what He did: God the Son, the Lord and Savior lived a perfect life, died a sacrificial death, rose again, ascended to heaven

• What the appropriate response is: turn from sin; trust in Christ

• repentance: acknowledging sin, sorrow for it, turning from it

• faith: knowledge of, assent to, and trust in the person and work of Jesus Christ alone for salvation

• What the costs of discipleship are:

• death to self

• submission to Christ as Lord

Sharing the life-giving gospel of Christ with lost people is a great privilege. Believers should be ready at any time to “give an answer to every man that asks you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear” (1 Pet 3:15). It’s your duty to know the details of the gospel and to be able to express the message in a compelling way. Take the opportunities that God gives you to share the gospel with those around you.

Some Obstacles to Effective Evangelism

• Some believe they need a lot of specialized training to witness effectively. Perhaps they are concerned about making a mistake when communicating the gospel—this is a serious matter, and they don’t want to mess up. Or perhaps they lack the confidence to answer potential questions E.g., How do you know the Bible is true? How do you know Jesus rose from the dead? Why do you think you’re right and all the other religions are wrong? Why does God allow so much evil in the world? Such questions are intimidating.

Answer: 1) Most believers can learn to communicate the gospel very efficiently. If one understood it well enough to be saved himself, he should be able to tell others; 2) Tell what you know and don’t worry about what you don’t know. Don’t be afraid to admit your lack of knowledge. Tell how you got saved. Advanced training is important and valuable, but not necessary for effective evangelism.

• Some are afraid that people will think they are strange and will reject them. They don’t want to lose friends or popularity. If they tell others about Jesus, they might suffer ridicule or insults. In other words, they are ashamed.

Answer: We should expect some opposition to the message. Jesus was crucified for that message. The disciples were killed for it. Millions of Christians have been persecuted for it. So it shouldn’t surprise us if people react negatively to the gospel message. Paul said, “I am not ashamed of the gospel” (Rom 1:12). Are you?

• Some may be uncomfortable with the methods of evangelism they have been taught. People use various methods to spread the gospel: door-to-door evangelism (“cold calling”), street preaching, passing out tracts on the corner, telemarketing (phones), etc. Some people are uncomfortable with such activities.

Answer: 1) These are not the only methods of evangelism–there are many others that one might find more suitable to them. 2) Lack of comfort should not deter one from evangelizing. Paul, for example, endured an amazing amount of discomfort (beatings, stoning, shipwrecks, imprisonment, threats) as he spread the gospel. We can endure a little discomfort for the cause of Christ.

• Some people may be disillusioned because of their lack of success. Since no one responded in the past, they have decided not to try again.

Answer: The goal in evangelism is to glorify God by sharing the gospel with another person. Whether or not that person accepts the gospel is not under the control of the evangelist. All biblical evangelism is successful evangelism, regardless of the results. So don’t give up.

• Some consider themselves too sinful to tell others. They think of themselves as such poor examples of what a Christian should be that they are hesitant to tell others of their need for Christ.

Answer: 1) It’s true that rebellious believers are bad testimonies. If their lives are a mess, or if they display ungodly attitudes and behaviors, they have nothing to offer anyone else. 2) God uses regular, sinful people to evangelize. One does not have to be a “superChristian” to witness. It’s OK to admit that you still struggle with sin. The message is more important than the messenger.

• Biblical illiteracy, spiritual immaturity, apathy, and wrong doctrine prevent people from witnessing. Many believers have not progressed to the place where they could make a convincing, or even accurate, presentation of the gospel to an unbeliever. Failure to evangelize boils down to simple disobedience. Christians have received a direct, unmistakable commission: go and tell others. No excuse for not doing so is valid.

There is no effective antidote to disobedience other than repentance and revival. A stubborn refusal to be involved in evangelism indicates a backslidden spiritual state.

Friendship Evangelism

Probably the most effective and natural means of evangelism might be called friendship evangelism. This is not really a particular method at all. Believers simply use the relationships they naturally have to spread the message of the gospel. In other words, one tells his friends and acquaintances during the regular course of life. He takes the opportunities that come his way to tell others directly, invite them to church or special meetings, hand out a tract, or give a word of encouragement. He makes evangelism a normal part of his life, using the contacts that he has.

Note the Quote: “Evangelism is the inalienable responsibility of every Christian community, and every Christian man. We are all under orders to devote ourselves to spreading the good news, and to use all our ingenuity and enterprise to bring it to the notice of the whole world.”¹

Conclusion: Every believer is responsible to tell others how to be saved. Make sure that you know the main points of a Gospel presentation, and tell others when you have an opportunity. Don’t let the typical hindrances to evangelism prevent you from being a good witness.

Discussion:

1. Who has the responsibility to tell others about Christ? All believers

2. What are the contents of a proper gospel presentation? Who God is, who man is, who Jesus is, the correct response to the message, the costs of discipleship

3. List some reasons believers fail to evangelize. See above list.

4. Does the Bible present any certain method of evangelism as the correct one? No.

5. Describe friendship evangelism. Telling and/or inviting your friends; using the contacts you already have.

1 J.I. Packer, Evangelism and the Sovereignty of God, p. 26.

Bible Boot Camp: Lesson 11: Proper Behavior

How should Christians decide what kinds of activities are proper for them? That is, how can one know if something is right or wrong? We could come up with a long list of rules to follow. But instead of just listing a bunch of do’s and don’ts, we’ll look at some important Biblical principles to apply.

Direct Commands and General Principles

The first thing to do is see what the Bible teaches about the subject. Direct biblical principles cover many of life’s most important issues–they tell us specifically what to do and what not to do. What are some direct commands that we must follow? Don’t murder, don’t steal, don’t lie, don’t commit various forms of immorality, be saved, be generous, be kind, attend church, etc.

The Bible doesn’t address many issues that modern believers have to deal with. Usually, if the Bible doesn’t speak to the topic directly, we can find a general principle that does apply. What issues do general biblical principles cover? Amusement, entertainment, dress, music, language, etc.

General Biblical Principles that Guide Behavior

There is usually not much question or confusion regarding how to apply direct biblical commands – just obey them. However, because the Bible doesn’t address every single issue, we must apply general principles. Below is a list of texts that we should use when the Bible doesn’t directly talk about an issue.

1. 1 Corinthians 10:31 Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.

“To glorify” means to honor or reverence, to treat with respect. To do something for the “glory of God” means that we do it in a way that God would be pleased with.

What are some things that it is impossible to do “to the glory of God”? Murder, lie, cheat, steal, immorality, get drunk, etc. What about watch TV/movies? Some shows are OK, many are not.

Ask yourself the question, “Is God pleased with or honored by this activity?” or “Can I do this activity in a way that God would be pleased with?”

1. Philippians 4:8-9 Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me, these do, and the God of peace will be with you.

• Think about the right kinds of things.

What kinds of things would this passage rule out? Porn, bad language, wrong religion or philosophy, etc.

Where are the good things from this passage found? In the Bible, in good books, in art, science, history, biography, etc.

• Follow the right kind of teachers. “learned, received, heard” When the blind follow the blind, they both fall into a pit. Make sure you are following someone who is leading you in an orthodox, proper path.

• Follow the right kind of examples. “seen in me”

Who is speaking here? Paul

What did Paul expect his readers to do with the information he had taught them? do it

Paul was a good example for the Philippians and for us. Who are other examples we could follow? Mature Christians–pastor, deacons, teachers. This is one important reason to be in church.

Ask yourself, “Does this help me think the right thoughts?” and “Is this teacher helping or hurting me?” and “Am I following a good or a bad example here?”

2. 2 Corinthians 5:10 For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, that each one may receive the things done in the body, according to what he has done, whether good or bad.

All Christians will one day stand before the Lord to be judged for our works. Thus, we should ask ourselves, “Is this activity worthy of reward, or will I be sorry I did it?”

Note: This judgment is for rewards, not for salvation. Nobody is saved based on his or her works.

1. 1 Corinthians 6:12 All things are lawful for me, but all things are not helpful. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any.

The people at Corinth were boasting that they were totally free in Christ and could do whatever they wanted to. This is a very common sentiment today. Paul gives them two limitations:

• Your actions should be beneficial, i.e., helpful, advantageous, or profitable. What are some activities that we can do that are not sinful, but that are unprofitable? Much TV, video games, movies, entertainment, some books, etc.

• Your actions should not lead to enslavement. What are some activities that tend to lead to enslavement? Smoking, drinking, drugs, porn.

Ask yourself, “Is this kind of activity beneficial?” and “Will this activity bring me under its power?”

2. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.

This passage teaches several important truths that impact our behavior. First, the Holy Spirit indwells the believer’s body. That means that wherever the believer goes and whatever he does, God is present. Second, the believer’s body is not his own because God has purchased it. No one has the right to do whatever he pleases with his body. Third, the believer’s duty is to honor God with his body. Some have taught that it doesn’t matter what one does with his body because the physical nature is not as important as the spiritual. This is not true. One should seek to honor God with both his body and his spirit, because both belong to God.

How should this text influence your behavior? Avoid any activities that dishonor God or your body.

6. 1 Peter 1: 15-16 but as He who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, because it is written, “Be holy, for I am holy.”

Clearly, this text teaches that the believer is to live a holy life. But note that one should be holy because God is holy. Christians should judge an activity by comparing it to the character of God. In other words, if the activity runs contrary to what we know God is like, the activity is likely out of bounds.

List some of the attributes of God’s goodness that can help us evaluate an activity or behavior. Holy, loving, kind, gracious, merciful, truthful, righteous, just. If participating in an activity/behavior forces you to violate these characteristics, the activity is probably not acceptable.

What about letting your conscience be your guide?

What is a conscience? It’s an internal sense of right and wrong, a witness within man’s heart that tells him he ought to do what he believes is right and not to do what he believes is wrong. Conscience does not teach us what is right or wrong, but prods us to do what we have been taught is right.

The conscience may or may not be a good guide, depending on how it has been molded. One’s conscience may become overly-sensitive if he has been taught that certain permissible behaviors are sinful. On the other hand, one can so abuse his conscience that it becomes unable to sense good and evil (1 Tim 4:2). If your conscience is telling you that a behavior is wrong, you should not practice it. If you are unsure about a behavior, you should withhold from participating until you examine the matter biblically. Once you are convinced that an activity is acceptable for Christians, it should not bother your conscience when you engage in it. In any case, don’t ignore your conscience.

Note: Determining what behaviors are personally acceptable for you depends greatly on your spiritual and physical maturity. Young people still living at home obviously have to abide by the rules their parents teach. Newly saved people probably won’t have the same standards and convictions as mature Christians do.

Conclusion: How do you know if an activity is proper or not? Find out what the Bible teaches, either directly or in principle. Can you practice the behavior in a way that honors God? Does the practice help you think the right kinds of thoughts, or does it tempt you toward evil thinking? Are you following a good example or a bad one? If God were to judge you for this activity, would you be rewarded or punished? Is the behavior beneficial for yourself and others or does it lead to enslavement? Answering such questions usually helps in choosing proper activities.

Discussion:

1. Why is it sometimes hard to discern what behavior is acceptable? Because the Bible doesn’t speak to some issues, especially modern ones–e.g., entertainment, dress standards, games/recreation, etc.

2. How can you know if some activity brings glory to God or not? Check what the Bible says directly about it; check what general principles may apply; think about the character of God and evaluate the activity on that basis.

3. How should the reality of the Judgment Seat of Christ influence your behavior? Knowing that we face judgment for our actions should cause us to think twice before getting involved in sinful behavior.

Bible Boot Camp: Lesson 10: The Lordship of Christ

One of the titles used of God and Jesus in the Bible is “Lord.” We often use this title, but may not know what the significance of the word is. Today we’ll find out what it means when we say “Jesus is Lord.”

1. Titles reveal much important information about the one to whom they refer. What are Jesus Christ’s titles in the following verses?

• John 13:13 teacher and Lord

• Acts 2:36 Lord and Christ

• Rev. 19:16 King of kings and Lord of lords

Summarize what these titles show about Jesus. Jesus has a great deal of authority.

The word “Lord” suggests legal authority. It may also be translated as “master” or “owner.” It refers to one having power. As a noun, it suggests a ruler, one who has control. It always contains the idea of legality and authority. When we attach the term to God or Jesus, we are asserting that he has authority and power. Those who claim Jesus as their Lord are saying that they recognize and submit to Christ’s authority. They are committed to fulfilling the requirements of a disciple of Christ–denying oneself and willingly obeying Christ.

2. Jesus is repeatedly referred to as the Lord.

• The phrase “Lord Jesus” occurs 115 times in the NT.

• The disciples often referred to him as “Lord.”

• Paul often refers to Jesus as the Lord. Cf. Rom 10:9, 14:9

There is no doubt that the NT teaching about Jesus is that he is the Lord, the master, the one who has legal authority.

3. Read Philippians 2:9-11

What name is above Jesus’ name? none

What will happen at the name of Jesus? every knee bow and tongue confess that Christ is Lord

4. Read Luke 14:26-33. Note the following:

• Being a disciple is costly .

• Christ must come before any relationship v. 26.

• Christ must come before yourself v. 27.

• Christ must come before any possession v. 33.

Question: Is there any difference between a believer and a disciple? Is discipleship required of all believers, or is discipleship a higher, optional level of commitment? Believers are disciples. There’s no difference. What the Bible requires of disciples it requires of all believers. One cannot say, “I’m a believer but not a disciple.”

5. Read Luke 6:46. What are a couple of implications of this verse?

• If you call Christ “Lord,” you should obey him.

• Those who call Him “Lord” and don’t obey are out of order or not saved at all.

6. Read 1 John 2:4-6. Summarize this passage in your own words.

Those who claim to be saved and are disobedient are liars and not saved. Whoever claims to be saved must be Christ-like. We’re not talking about sinless perfection, but striving for maturity. Immaturity is normal, but the immature move on, they grow. Lack of growth is a sign of death/no life/no salvation.

7. Some who claim Jesus as their Lord are insincere.

Matthew 7:21-23 “Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven. Many will say to Me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name?’ And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness!’”

Titus 1:16 They profess that they know God; but in works they deny him, being abominable, and disobedient, and unto every good work reprobate.

One may profess to be saved and not possess a genuine relationship with God through Christ. In fact, there are likely many people who consider themselves to be Christians because they agree with the facts of the gospel. However, salvation is much more than mere assent to a set of facts.

Also note that one’s lifestyle can contradict his profession of faith. That is, if the evidence in one’s life is not consistent with what should be evident in a Christian’s life, he should not assume that his faith is genuine. One’s lifestyle will either confirm or deny his profession of faith.

Question: What about the so-called “carnal” Christian? Paul uses this term to describe those who professed to be saved yet were living ungodly lives, just like unsaved people (1 Cor 3:1-4). The word “carnal” simply means “fleshly,” suggesting that which is controlled by the old nature, the flesh (as opposed to the Spirit). Based on this, some have suggested that one can be a genuine Christian and yet live an ungodly, carnal life for years on end. However, we should probably not think of the “carnal Christian” as a legitimate category of believer. If one’s faith is genuine, he will not persist in a worldly, ungodly lifestyle, but he will be transformed and sanctified as he submits to God’s work in his life. True believers persevere in faith and in good works, not in rebellion and worldliness. Those who fail to give evidence of a transformed life are not just carnal; they’re not saved. One cannot use the excuse “Sorry, but I’m just a carnal Christian” to justify his ungodliness. We’re not saying that it’s impossible to backslide, but that a true believer’s life will not be characterized by ungodliness, at least not as a long-term pattern of life.

Question: We know that Jesus is the Lord and that believers must recognize Jesus’ right to rule over them. However, there is some debate regarding whether or not one must acknowledge the Lordship of Christ at the point of salvation. Some say that salvation occurs without the necessity of recognizing any aspect of Jesus’ claim of authority over one’s life. That is, one can be saved without any intent or desire to follow the Lord in obedience or loyalty. However, the general teaching of the NT is that the faith one exercises at the point of salvation must include at least some degree of commitment to Christ as one’s Lord. Virtually nobody makes a perfect, total commitment of his life to Christ at the point of salvation; few make such a commitment after salvation, for that matter. But the convert must understand that becoming a disciple of Christ requires submission to him. The NT presents Jesus as both the Savior and the Lord, and that is how we must present him to others. The other side of this argument is what I call “easy-believism,” which claims that no more than simple acknowledgement of the facts is required for salvation–no repentance, no commitment–a simple recognition that Jesus is the Savior. I disagree with this position.

Conclusion: What is the practical meaning of the Lordship of Christ? It means that believers must submit their wills to his. Jesus demands and deserves first place in the believer’s life. Obedience is not optional. Jesus is not just the Savior; He’s the Lord and Master. Part of being a Christian is submission to Christ as one’s Lord.

Discussion:

1. What does the title “Lord” mean? Legal authority. Master, owner, the one in control

2. Is it possible for one who does not recognize the Lordship of Christ to be saved? No. One need not be perfectly obedient/committed to Christ to be saved, but one must at least acknowledge that Jesus has legal authority over one’s life.

3. What is the practical significance of the Lordship of Christ? If we claim to be disciples of Christ, we must follow Christ obediently. Those who fail to do so must not be genuinely saved. Not that it’s possible for us to judge that in many cases.

4. Is it necessary to recognize the Lordship of Christ at the point of salvation? Yes, at least to some degree. One must acknowledge that Jesus is Lord (Rom 10:9).

5. Will a genuine believer persist in rebellion, worldliness and ungodliness? He may backslide for a time and/or show signs of immaturity, but a true believer will display evidence of salvation and will persist in faith and in good works.

Bible Boot Camp: Lesson 9: What to Do About Sin

When a person becomes a Christian, lots of things change (2 Corinthians 5:17). Unfortunately, one thing remains the same: believers still sin. They may not sin in the same ways, but they do sin. Even mature believers still struggle with sin. No one reaches a level of perfection where they no longer sin or yield to temptation occasionally.

This lesson will look at what a believer should do when he sins.

1. Confess your sin to God. Prov 28:13; 1 John 1:8-10

Note that the texts imply that believers still sin. In fact, if someone thinks he is sinless, he is wrong.

The word “confess” means to admit, acknowledge, or agree with. The Greek word literally means “to say the same thing.” When you confess your sin, you admit to God that you have sinned, acknowledge that you are guilty and ask for forgiveness.

Confession is not to other people, like a priest, but to God. It’s not wrong to talk to someone else about your sin, but it’s not necessary unless someone else is affected by your sin.

When one has sinned, he will normally feel guilty or sorry for his sin. Don’t ignore this feeling. Your conscience is a very important voice telling you right from wrong. However, you shouldn’t wait until you feel guilty to confess your sin to God. You should ask God to forgive you as soon as possible after you sin.

The fact that God forgives sin should not produce within us a presumptuous attitude regarding sin, as if we can freely sin because God always forgives anyway. God’s willingness to forgive us should lead us to live holy, righteous lives (Titus 2:11-12).

Question: What do you think about this statement: “I can sin all I want to because God is always going to forgive me anyway.” This is obviously a wrong attitude. God forgives us when we are truly repentant, and this kind of attitude lacks true sorrow for sin.

Question: What has God promised to those believers who refuse to repent of and forsake sin? Chastisement Hebrews 12:5-7

Question: Why do Christians need to confess their sins and ask for forgiveness if God has already forgiven all sins at the point of salvation? Sin is still sin. We need to still ask for pardon because we still sin. Full forgiveness declared in a judicial sense (i.e. based on imputed or positional righteousness) does not prevent the on-going need for forgiveness applied in a sanctifying or progressive sense (relational righteousness). Unconfessed sin will negatively affect your relationship with your Father here on earth. Things will not be right in terms of communion and maturity between ourselves and our heavenly Father until we have said “sorry” and asked Him to over look the ways we have let Him down.

From the Westminster Confession: “God continues to forgive the sins of those that are justified; and, although they can never fall from the state of justification, yet they may, by their sins, fall under God’s fatherly displeasure, and not have the light of his countenance restored unto them, until they humble themselves, confess their sins, beg pardon, and renew their faith and repentance.”

Note: Sometimes we say that sin in the believer’s life hinders his fellowship with God. This is probably not the most accurate language to use. In the NT, the idea of fellowship with God roughly corresponds with salvation (1 Cor 1:9; 1 John 1:3-6). Hence, if one is saved, he has fellowship with God and cannot be out of fellowship with Him. A believer may, however, “fall under God’s fatherly displeasure” through sin, which does hinder one’s day-to-day relationship with God.

2. Forsake your sin. Proverbs 28:13

“Renounce” or “forsake” means to leave behind or to turn your back on. After confessing your sin, you must determine not to sin in that way again. This doesn’t guarantee that you won’t, but this should be your attitude.

Does God forgive the person who has no intention of forsaking that sin? No.

3. Make amends for your sin.

Your sin often affects others. Therefore, you must make things right with those touched by your sin. Don’t pretend the sin never happened. Deal with it.

• Ask others to forgive you if necessary.

• Repair, replace, or repay for what you did. Make restitution.

Question: What should you do when someone thinks you have wronged him or her, but you don’t believe you did? I.e., someone accuses you of wrongdoing, but you are innocent. Depends on the situation. At times, you could just be gracious and kind and apologize even though you are not to blame. E.g., “If I’ve done anything to offend you, I’m sorry.” At other times, you need not apologize if you are certain you are totally free of guilt in the matter. If something is absolutely not your fault, you have no need to admit any guilt.

4. Be sensitive about sin. Psalm 19:12, 139:23-24

It ought to bother you when you sin. You ought to be concerned about it. Ask God to show you your sins and your shortcomings. It’s good to do this at the end of each day. Keep “short accounts” with God. Don’t let sin pile up.

Ephesians 5:11 says, “Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them.” Those who are sensitive to sin are concerned about sin in the lives of others. They don’t talk or joke about sinful behavior or enjoy it when others sin. Christians should obviously not tell or listen to dirty stories or off-color jokes and the like. Neither should they listen to “juicy” gossip regarding the sins of others. The corrupt and wicked ways of media stars should have no attraction for us. Don’t watch TV shows that promote and wallow in the “dirty laundry” of wicked people. Sin grieves God; it should grieve us, too.

What About when Others Sin against You?

Christians are not perfect people. Just like anyone else, they are prone to mistakes, errors in judgment, and sinful behavior. So we should not be surprised when a fellow believer sins against us. What should be our response?

• Pray – Probably the first thing we should do when sinned against is pray for the offender. Pray that he or she would admit their sin, repent of it and make restitution.

• Confront – It is a Christian’s duty to confront a brother or sister in Christ about his or her sin (Mt 18:15-17; Gal 6:1). Go to the person privately and discuss the issue. In some instances, this will solve the problem. At times, other individuals may need to be brought in to help. There may be occasions when church discipline is appropriate. Don’t just ignore the problem; deal with it.

• Forgive – Whether or not the offending individual apologizes, the Christian response to sin against himself is to forgive. One must not allow himself to become bitter, resentful or hateful against those who sin against him. If you’re not careful, a failure to forgive will develop bitterness in your heart. Learn to forgive people even if they don’t ask for it or don’t deserve it. Really, none of us deserve to be forgiven. Think of how much God has forgiven you.

• Rest – Once you’ve done your biblical duty, trust God to work out the situation. You can’t force anyone to repent. The only thing within your control is how you respond to the situation. Put it behind you and move on.

Conclusion: What should Christians do when they sin? They should confess it, forsake it, and make amends for it. They should always be sensitive about sin.

Discussion:

1. What does the word “confess” mean? To admit, acknowledge or agree with.

2. Why do saved people need to continue to ask forgiveness for sin? Because sin is still sin, and it creates a barrier between God and man.

3. What does “forsake” mean? To leave behind, turn your back on

4. Why is it inappropriate for Christians to enjoy listening to Hollywood gossip shows or talk shows that air someone’s “dirty laundry”? Because sin should grieve us. We shouldn’t find sinful things like that attractive. Trashy talk does not belong in the Christian life.

5. Does a Christian have to forgive someone if he or she doesn’t apologize? Yes.

6. Does a Christian have to apologize is he or she is not guilty of sin? No, but sometimes it’s a good idea anyway.

7. How can lack of forgiveness develop a bitter attitude? When you hold on to a hurt, it just gets worse and more painful.

Bible Boot Camp: Lesson 8: Separation

Therefore “Come out from among them And be separate, says the Lord. Do not touch what is unclean, And I will receive you. I will be a Father to you, And you shall be My sons and daughters, Says the Lord Almighty.” (2 Cor 6:17)

Separation is the teaching that Christians ought to be distinct and different from the sinful, corrupt world around them. The doctrine of separation is based on the holiness of God. Throughout the Bible, we find the command to be holy because God is holy (Lev 11:44 19:2, 20:7; 1 Pet 1:16). The primary meaning of the word “holy” is “unique, different, or separate.” God is both totally separate from sin and totally unique. Believers ought to imitate this character of God by separating themselves from sinful influences and striving to live a life of holiness.

Three Areas of Personal Separation:

1. Physical Separation

1 Corinthians 3:16 Do you not know that you are the temple of God and that the Spirit of God dwells in you?

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.

1. The Holy Spirit indwells the body of the believer, thus making it the temple of God. As such, the believer should seek to live in a way that would not dishonor God. There are many activities that would defile one’s body and dishonor God. What are some examples? Sexual immorality and those activities associated with it, pornography. What about dancing? Some forms might be OK–square, ballroom, folk. But modern dancing to rock music is not appropriate for a Christian, imho. Tattoos.

2. Believers ought to stay away from any substances which would defile their bodies. What would be some examples? Alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, some foods, etc.

Physical separation is staying away from those activities or substances that would be dishonoring to God. We must remove ourselves from certain environments in order to prevent ourselves from sinning or being associated with sinful practices.

We live in a very sinful culture. Christians ought to be truly counter-cultural. They ought to be offering an alternative lifestyle to what most others are pursuing. They must stand against the evils of society and refuse to be forced into the mold that modern culture is promoting. That’s what separation is all about.

Unfortunately, many voices within the church tell us that we need to be like the world in order to reach the world. We supposedly must format Christianity in a way that is the least offensive to unbelievers. Many churches are going the “seeker sensitive” route in order to be more appealing to lost people. However, the doctrine of separation teaches us that we cannot lower our standards or engage in worldly behavior just to make ourselves, our message, or our church more appealing to the lost.

2. Relational Separation

2 Cor 6:14-18 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will dwell in them And walk among them. I will be their God, And they shall be My people.” Therefore “Come out from among them And be separate, says the Lord. Do not touch what is unclean, And I will receive you.” “I will be a Father to you, And you shall be My sons and daughters, Says the Lord Almighty.”

1. Explain what a yoke (not yolk) is. The wooden farming implement used to hook together animals in order to pull a plow or cart.

2. The Israelites were forbidden from plowing with an ox and a donkey yoked together because the animals were of unequal strength (Deut 22:10). Paul uses the idea of a yoke to teach that believers should not be joined with unbelievers in certain activities. What reasons does Paul give for separation from unbelievers? Union with unbelievers constitutes an unequal yoke; believers have nothing in common with unbelievers spiritually; an unequal yoke may cause a believer to be involved with “unclean” things; such a yoke may prevent one from enjoying a proper relationship with God.

3. The clear teaching of the Bible is that believers should not marry (or date) unbelievers. Such a union would be an unequal yoke.

Deuteronomy 7:3-4 Nor shall you make marriages with them. You shall not give your daughter to their son, nor take their daughter for your son. For they will turn your sons away from following Me, to serve other gods; so the anger of the Lord will be aroused against you and destroy you suddenly.

Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?

1 Corinthians 7:39 A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.

Saved people and unsaved people disagree on a very basic and significant level. Thus, a marriage between a lost person and a saved one creates all sorts of difficulties and problems. Name a few. How to raise the kids, how to handle church activities, how much money to give, what is morally acceptable behavior, etc.

Applying the doctrine of separation should also prevent a mature Christian from dating and/or marrying an immature Christian. If spiritual goals are not shared equally by both partners, it’s probably not a good idea for the two to date or marry. So it’s not enough that both individuals profess to be saved. Both should also be in agreement regarding theology and practice. Common scenario: spiritually mature/godly girl “gets swept off her feet” by immature guy. Girl tends to ignore this guy’s weaknesses because he pays attention to her. What happens when they get married? Friction develops because their spiritual goals are different. E.g., girls with “senioritis” at college–great pressure to get married.

4. Separation should prevent a believer from forming close, personal bonds with those who would be a bad influence upon them. Rather than going along with evil people, believers should rebuke them.

Psalm 1:1 Blessed is the man Who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, Nor stands in the path of sinners, Nor sits in the seat of the scornful.

Proverbs 13:20 He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will be destroyed.

1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be deceived: “Evil company corrupts good habits.”

Ephesians 5:11-12 And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of those things which are done by them in secret.

There are times during which a believer has no choice but to be in the company of wicked people. And it’s acceptable for Christians to have non-Christian friends. However, believers must not follow such people in their evil ways or allow them to negatively influence them. Believers must strive to be a good influence in such situations.

5. Separation is not isolation. It does not require the believer to enter a monastery or insulate himself against all contact with unsaved people. Christians are to be “in” the world but not “of” the world. God commands us to reach the lost, so we have to be out in the community interacting with those who need the gospel. However, we must prevent ourselves from being negatively influenced by unsaved people.

3. Doctrinal Separation

1. Paul’s primary concern in 2 Corinthians 6:14-18 is that believers separate themselves from false teachers and false doctrine. Genuine Christians should not allow cultists or others with faulty theology to influence them.

2. There are occasions when believers must break fellowship with other believers. Causes for separation from professing believers:

1. Doctrinal departure

2 Timothy 2:16-18 Avoid godless chatter, because those who indulge in it will become more and more ungodly. Their teaching will spread like gangrene. Among them are Hymenaeus and Philetus, who have wandered away from the truth.

There is room for some doctrinal differences among orthodox believers, but not on the major tenets of the faith. Teaching wrong doctrine is especially dangerous, and those who do so must be put out of the church (i.e., excommunicated).

Churches must also practice doctrinal separation. It is unwise and unbiblical for churches to cooperate with other churches that vary on important doctrinal or philosophical issues. What might some of these issues be? Baptism, the spiritual gifts (tongues, miracles), associations (e.g., WCC, ECT), universalism, worship practices, etc. It’s common for churches and organizations to depart from orthodoxy.

What are some issues that churches may disagree about, but might still cooperate? Bible version, dress standards, music preferences (to some degree)

It’s usually better to withdraw from a corrupt organization than to attempt to reform it. That’s why today many churches are independent rather than members of a larger denomination or association. Denominations tend to slide into doctrinal/philosophical compromise.

Doctrinal deviation is one reason why commitment to a confession of faith is a good practice. Many Baptist churches endorse the New Hampshire or London confessions. These confessions express clearly what doctrinal beliefs the church holds. Those departing from that position are clearly in opposition to what the church believes.

2. Divisive spirit

Romans 16:17 I urge you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and put obstacles in your way that are contrary to the teaching you have learned. Keep away from them.

Titus 3:10 Warn a divisive person once, and then warn him a second time. After that, have nothing to do with him.

What does “divisive” mean? Causing divisions and disunity within the church

Believers should stay away from those who cause friction and/or disunity within the church. What kind of behaviors might cause disunity? Gossip, insults, criticism, lies, false teaching.

3. Disorderly conduct

2 Thessalonians 3:6 Keep away from every brother who is idle and does not live according to the teaching you received from us.

2 Thessalonians 3:14 If anyone does not obey our instruction in this letter, take special note of him. Do not associate with him, in order that he may feel ashamed.

Disorderly conduct covers a multitude of sinful behaviors. Individuals and churches have to determine whether or not a believer’s behavior is so disorderly that he or she must be put out of the fellowship. What might some disorderly behaviors be? Drinking/drunkenness, various forms of immorality, being quarrelsome, financial misdeeds, idleness, violence, etc.

The goal of church discipline is to bring the offending person to repentance. Church discipline is for the benefit of both the person and the church. If the person refuses to repent, church members should treat him as an unsaved person and avoid him. This is why church membership is so important—if one is not a member, the church has no right to impose discipline upon him.

Applying the Doctrine of Separation

At times it may be difficult to tell when you should separate yourself from an activity, a person or a group. Asking yourself the following questions may be of help:

• Is it forbidden in the Bible? John 17:17

• Is it of the world or will it make me worldly if I do it? John 15:19; 1 John 2:15-17

• It is good for me physically, emotionally and/or spiritually? Romans 12:9b; I Corinthians 10:23

• Can I do it knowing that my body is the temple of the Holy Spirit? I Corinthians 6:19

• Will it glorify the Lord, or will it possibly bring shame to His Name? I Corinthians 6:20; 10: 31

• Can I honestly ask God’s blessing on it and be certain I’ll not regret doing it? Proverbs 10: 22

• Is it apt to damage my testimony for the Lord? Philippians 2:15; Genesis 19:14

• Is it possible that it is a stumbling block to weak believers? Romans 14:7, 2 1; I Corinthians 8:12, 14

• Will it look bad? Does it have the appearance of evil? 1 Thessalonians 5:22

• Would I be ashamed to be found doing this when Christ returns? I John 2:28; Mark 13:28

• Will it make me a slave to anything or anyone but Christ? I Corinthians 6:12

• Will it eliminate me from any type of Christian service? I Corinthians 9:27

• Do I have any doubts that it might be wrong, or does it violate my conscience? Romans 14:23

• Is it a valuable use of my time, or does it waste time? Ephesians 5:16

• Could Satan use this as a way to gain a “foothold” in my life? 2 Corinthians 2: 11; Ephesians 4:27

• What do my spiritual leaders (parents, pastors) and/or other godly people think about it? What advice would they give me? Hebrews 13:17

Conclusion: Separation is the teaching that Christians ought to be distinct and different from the sinful, corrupt world around them. God commands believers to shine like lights in the midst of a dark and depraved culture. We are to separate ourselves from those activities and substances which would defile our bodies, the temple of the Holy Spirit. We are to separate ourselves from those people who would influence us in a negative way, even if those people are professing believers. And we are to separate ourselves from false doctrine and those who teach it. We must also remember that separation is not isolation. We are in the world, but not of the world. Separation does not prevent us from reaching out to those who need to be saved.

Discussion:

1. Explain the analogy of the yoke and how it applies to separation.

2. Does separation mean that you can’t have unsaved friends? No, simply that you don’t allow them to influence you toward evil. This may mean that you can’t do what they do–certain parties or other activities where you know they’ll be encouraging you to sin. There may be times when you have to end a friendship.

3. What’s the difference between separation and isolation? Isolation is preventing all contact with evil people, a “fortress mentality.” Separation is preventing evil from influencing you.

4. What are the biblical grounds for breaking fellowship with professing believers? Doctrinal deviation, divisive spirit, disorderly conduct

5. How do you know when to separate from something or someone? Apply the principles in this lesson.

6. What’s wrong with this argument: “In order to reach people, you have to be like them.” It’s simply not true. Sick people don’t need another sick person to help them. People often are more responsive to someone who is different from, not the same as, they are.

Bible Boot Camp: Lesson 7: Daily Devotions

We’ve already learned about the necessity for both Bible intake and prayer. When we do both in a private situation, we usually call it “devotions” or having a “quiet time.” Having devotions on a regular basis is a fundamental discipline of a mature Christian life.

Why do we consider devotions to be a discipline? Because they take time and effort; one must discipline himself to engage in them; like exercise, the discipline makes one stronger—the effort pays off, it’s worthwhile.

What ought devotions to include? Minimum: Bible reading and prayer. Can add Bible study (i.e., taking notes, reading commentaries, etc), meditation, memorization, singing or reading hymns, devotional books, etc.

Since we’ve previously studied the elements of a devotional life (i.e., Bible intake and prayer), we’ll not cover that ground again. This lesson will focus on how to make the discipline of devotions a normal and important part of your life.

Bible Reading

Since reading the Bible is so important, we need a plan or strategy to do it. Here are some tips:

1. Make a commitment to do it. Devotions should not be an “if I have time” event. Instead, make room in your schedule so you have time to do it.

2. Determine what time of day you’re going to do it. For many people, mornings are the best because it prepares you for the rest of the day. If the mornings won’t work, find another time.

3. Find a quiet, comfortable spot away from distractions.

4. Before you start, ask God to help you understand. Make Psalm 25:4-5 your prayer.

5. Read according to a plan or schedule. Don’t just flip open your Bible and start reading.

Potential plans:

1. Read from various parts of the Bible

• a section from the OT and from the NT. If you read 3 chapters from the OT and the NT daily, you’ll get through the NT about 3 times in the time it takes to get through the OT.

• from the Law (Gen-Deut), History (Josh - Esther), Poetry (Job - SoS), Prophets (Isa - Mal), and the NT

• Start in Genesis, Job, and Matthew. If you read equal numbers of chapters in each section, you’ll end at about the same time.

2. Read the whole Bible through in a year. You can do so if you read 3-4 chapters every day. Follow a published plan, or buy a one-year Bible.

3. Read sections repeatedly (this works especially well in the NT). Examples: loop through Luke-Romans, Galatians-Colossians, or 1 Thessalonians-Titus. Or read the same book over and over again. What would be the benefits of doing this? You get to know that section very well.

4. Read through a chronological Bible. This Bible arranges the information into a chronological order, so you read the events in the order in which they occurred. By the way, there’s nothing inspired about the format or set up of our Bibles. The traditional format is somewhat confusing because it doesn’t follow a chronological order. Reading a chronological Bible is highly recommended–helps the reader make sense of the material better than how it is laid out traditionally.

5. Read and meditate on a small passage (a paragraph or a chapter). Concentrate on understanding that passage very well.

6. Follow a published Bible reading schedule included in many devotional booklets and/or guides. TableTalk, published by RC Sproul’s organization Ligonier Ministries, is a good example.

6. Read a portion that is comfortable for you, maybe 1-3 chapters.

7. Take notes as you read.

1. Outline the book. Note the major themes.

2. Write down questions and comments to study or discuss later.

3. Note verses you’d like to work on memorizing.

8. For a change of pace, read from a different version than you normally do.

1. Versions: The KJV is generally accurate and reliable, but the language is often quite difficult. The NKJV updates the language of the KJV without departing totally from the well-known phrasing and language of the KJV. The NASB is a good literal translation, as is the ESV. The NIV is quite interpretive, often giving the translator’s view of what the author meant. Nevertheless, it’s generally pretty accurate and is quite clear and readable. Avoid paraphrases (Living Bible, The Message).

2. Study Bibles: Explanatory notes can add much to your understanding of the text. The NIV Study Bible has a very good notes section. The Ryrie Study Bible has many helpful notes, as does the Reformation Study Bible. John MacArthur’s study Bible is a good one. Various publishers put out Student Bibles, which are formatted especially for teens. As always, remember that the notes, while usually helpful, are not inspired and may be contrary to what you have been taught.

3. Parallel Bibles: These volumes have the text of several translations side by side so you can see how the different translators handled the text. This is especially helpful when one translation is unclear.

4. Interlinears: An interlinear Bible has the text of the original language (Hebrew or Greek) along side the English translation. Interlinears are especially helpful for those who have a basic knowledge of the original languages.

9. Use another book in conjunction with your reading, such as a good commentary, or a devotional book. Many devotional books include interesting stories but don’t aid in your understanding of the text. Use those that explain the Bible or deal with significant doctrinal issues. E.g., “Our Daily Bread” is often interesting to read, but is pretty light–not much in the way of explaining the text. Most teen-oriented devotion guides are the same.

10. Read with a friend or a study group. Agree to read a certain section and then meet to discuss it.

Prayer

In our last lesson we covered this issue pretty thoroughly. Here are some reminders for effective prayer:

• Use the ACTS format:

Adoration (i.e., praising God for who he is) Nehemiah 9:6-7

Confession 1 John 1:9

Thanksgiving 1 Thes 5:18

Supplication Phil 4:6

• Pray briefly before you read the Bible, asking God for wisdom and enlightenment. As you read and meditate upon the Bible, you’ll see principles or issues that you should pray about. Spend the majority of your prayer time after you’ve read the Bible.

• Use a prayer list. There are several available at church, or start your own. It’s important to pray specifically. “God bless the missionaries” is a little too general.

• Pray for others: parents, friends, pastor, church members, missionaries

• Pray for events: church services, activities, mission work, plans

• Pray for your self: confess sin, help with problems

You might want to break up your list into different things for each day of the week. That way you can pray briefly each day and still pray for many things within a week.

What about Fasting?

Biblically speaking, fasting is a voluntary abstinence from food for spiritual reasons. One may fast from food or from any number of regular activities like watching TV, using certain products, participating in certain events, etc. A fast is any time you refrain from doing something you usually do, for spiritual reasons. The Bible refers only to fasting from food.

The NT indicates that there will be times for fasting. Jesus stated more than once that his disciples would fast (Matt 6:16-17, 9:14-15, 17:21) and the early church participated in fasting (Acts 13:2, 14:23). However, Paul mentions it only once (1Cor 7:5) and does not suggest that fasting is a necessary part of the Christian life.

How is fasting related to prayer? Fasting is often associated with prayer (Ezra 8:23; Neh 1:4; Dan 9:3; Acts 13:3). Fasting brings a note of urgency and sincerity to our prayers. Fasting doesn’t guarantee that God will answer prayer in the way that we desire, but it does show that we are serious and sincere about a matter. If you are facing a serious decision or have a significant prayer request, take meal times to pray instead of eating.

• Pray and fast for wisdom in making decisions (Acts 14:23)

• Pray and fast for deliverance or protection (Ezra 8:21-23; Esther 4:16).

• Pray and fast to express repentance for sin (1 Sam 7:6; Joel 2:12).

• Pray and fast to express and/or renew your dedication to God and to worship Him (Luke 2:37).

Conclusion: Discipline yourself to take time daily to meet with God in devotions. Bible reading and prayer are essential parts of the Christian life. Without them, there will be little if any growth or strength possible.

Discussion:

1. What do you see as the primary factors hindering your devotional life? Lack of time, lack of desire, apathy, boredom, don’t see how the Bible matters (e.g., Leviticus).

2. What do you have to do to overcome these obstacles? Make a commitment and stick with it, get a Bible version you can understand, find a time in your schedule, etc.

3. Are there any valid excuses for not taking time for devotions? No, at least not for extended periods of time.

4. Does it matter what physical position you take as you pray? The position doesn’t really matter. There are examples in the Bible of people standing with hands upraised, kneeling, and prostrating themselves.

5. How often should one pray and fast? Some people do so on a regular basis. Otherwise, doing so is appropriate when facing a serious decision or problem.